How To Fix Low Self-Esteem: 7 Tips To Be More Confident

Practice Self-Compassion

Self-compassion is one of the most powerful tools we have. I know from personal and professional experience how harsh self-criticism can be. It is common to be self-critical when things do not go as planned or when you fall short of your expectations. However, consider how much more positive your experience would be if you extended to yourself the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend.

When you find yourself engaged in self-criticism, take a moment to pause. Ask yourself, “Would I speak to a loved one in this manner?” Replace the negative self-talk with words of encouragement. Remember, everyone makes mistakes, and each error presents an opportunity for growth.

You deserve kindness—from others and especially from yourself. Start small, and you’ll be amazed at how this simple shift can heal the burn of low self-esteem.

Set Small, Achievable Goals

One of the quickest ways to boost confidence is by setting and achieving small, manageable goals. When dealing with low self-esteem, large tasks can feel overwhelming and impossible. But breaking those tasks into smaller, bite-sized pieces can give you a sense of accomplishment without the pressure.

Start with something simple. Maybe it’s making your bed in the morning or completing a small project you’ve been putting off. The key here is to focus on progress, not perfection. Each small win builds your confidence, making the larger goals feel more attainable over time.

Stay Present by Practicing Mindfulness

Have you ever found yourself spiraling into thoughts of what went wrong in the past or what could go wrong in the future? You’re not alone. Focusing too much on what’s behind or ahead of us is one of the easiest ways to lose confidence. That’s why staying present is so crucial.

Mindfulness can help you ground yourself in the moment. It lets you let go of anxiety about the past or the future and focus on the now. Take a few minutes each day to check in with yourself. How are you feeling right now? What are you experiencing in this moment? You’ll find that being present can reduce the stress and anxiety that often come with low self-esteem.

Avoid Comparisons

One of the biggest pitfalls for low self-esteem is comparing yourself to others. Whether it’s their career, relationship, or appearance, it’s easy to feel like you’re not measuring up. However, it’s important to remember that everyone’s journey is unique.

When you compare yourself to others, you’re measuring your worth against their highlight reel. You don’t see their struggles or setbacks. Redirecting your focus to your own path can help alleviate those feelings of inadequacy. Remember, you are unique, and your journey doesn’t need to mirror anyone else’s

Exercise Regularly for a Confidence Boost

It’s no secret that physical activity is good for the body, but it’s also one of the best ways to boost your mood and self-esteem. Exercise releases endorphins, which are those feel-good chemicals that instantly brighten your day.

You don’t need to dive into an intense workout routine to see the benefits. A simple walk around the block, a yoga session, or even dancing in your living room can do wonders for your mental and emotional well-being. It’s all about moving your body and allowing those endorphins to lift your spirits.

Surround Yourself With Positive Influences

Who you spend your time with matters—big time. I always tell my clients to think about the people they surround themselves with. Are they supportive? Do they uplift you? Or do they drain your energy and reinforce your negative beliefs about yourself?

Having a strong, positive support system can make all the difference. Surround yourself with people who celebrate your wins, encourage your growth, and hold you accountable in the best way. These relationships will reinforce your self-worth and help you see the best version of yourself.

Journal Your Thoughts for Clarity

If you feel overwhelmed by negative self-talk or uncertain about your feelings, journaling can be a powerful tool. Writing down your thoughts allows you to see them more clearly and separate the truth from the stories you’ve been telling yourself.

When you journal, you can start identifying the patterns that contribute to low self-esteem. Are there specific triggers or situations that make you feel unworthy? Once you identify these patterns, you can address them more effectively.

If you’re ready to take the next step in building your confidence, I’m here to help. Contact me today, and let’s get started on your journey toward self-empowerment and self-esteem healing.